Monday, January 26, 2009

How to Have your Best Recession EVER, Tip #1

#1 Lose the "Should" about your least for now.

This may sound like a radical and weird concept. But if you have been reading this blog, or reading my book Absolutely Should-less you know this is entirely possible. My biggest qualm with "shoulds" is this: When they conflict with reality, you will suffer. When you say to yourself, "I should have more money in my 401K," you may find a room full of people who will agree with you, but how does that make you feel? Does anger, fear, frustration, or worry help you take proactive steps to protect yourself and your family?

Letting go of "shoulds" doesn't mean you agree with what's going on, or that you do nothing to rectify it (we'll get to that later). It simply means you are accepting the objective reality of your loss, for now. It means you exercise your choice to feel peace in the NOW even though tomorrow is unknown. This can be profoundly challenging if you're used to thinking you know what's going to happen the next day, the next month, and the next year.

The hard reality is that none of us know what's going to happen, and if you're brutally honest, you'll admit you never did know before the recession. But if you can practice a little more acceptance of how things are in the here and now, vs. how you think they "should" be, then you are well on your way to having your BEST RECESSION EVER!

1 comment:

Grey said...

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