Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Now I Can "Rationally" Tell You...


      I have some AMAZING news to share with you today! But first, some background...

     After 16 years of working with couples and individuals in various treatment settings, I have come to understand that relationships don’t have to be that hard. We are all walking around on this earth trying to connect with others and build meaningful and satisfying bonds. But for so many there is something getting in the way of this experience, something preventing individuals and couples from having the joyful life they want and deserve.

    You would think it would be different by now. After all, humans have been roaming the planet for hundreds of thousands of years, somehow we humans have made it this far. We have more ways than ever to stay connected: smart phones, e-mails, text messaging, e-mail chatting, Internet social networks, access to travel. Go to any bookstore and you’ll find dozens of books which instruct people how to stay in fulfilling relationships. Turn on any daytime talk show and you’ll see “experts” sharing how to have better communication, more pleasure, happier unions. More and more American states and worldwide governments are legally recognizing marriage equality. Given all this, why are so many relationships so unsatisfying?

    Because most people are never taught the intelligent and practical tools and skills of Rational Relating that create and enhance serenity, joy, and fulfillment in an intimate connection. They are at a loss how to maintain authentic connections with other humans on a consistent basis. They do not have role models or guides to demonstrate and teach the intricacies of negotiations and compromise. They do not understand that love, attention, respect, and honor, are given to one’s self before they can be truly received from someone else.

    Today I am thrilled to announce that my new book, "Rational Relating" has been picked up for publishing and distribution by Red Skies Publishing for a February, 2013, release date. "Rational Relating" is a mindful and cognitive approach to enhancing relationships with others. It offers a step-by-step framework that enables couples to expand joy, serenity, and pleasure, while minimizing, pain, resentment, and suffering. It demonstrates how relationship "pillars" can be strengthened and maintained by promoting integrity, communication, compassion, responsibility, and compromise in connection with others. It is the culmination of my 16 years of practicing and studying the art and science or relationships, and I can't wait to share it with you!

    If you are interested in learning more, booking me as a speaker with your organization or group, or coming to see me in New York City for counseling or education, feel free to contact me at Shouldless@gmail.com, or call me at 347-227-7707.