Sunday, September 18, 2011

Changes Ahead...

If there is one thing that ever stays the same it is change.  If there's a second thing that stays the same, it's the perspective that things "should" be the way they used to be.  And if there's a third thing that remains the same, it is the irritation, frustration, and hopeless that results from having "shoulds" about change.

I am especially fascinated by this subject this month, as it seems all our lives personally and globally are undergoing a metamorphosis.  From the economy to politics, to our interpersonal relationships, and even the ways we consume entertainment, there is a shift that is being sparked by rapid changes in technology, access to information, and a breaking down of old systems.  These shifts can be scary and disappointing, yet with the right tools, can be approached from a place of clarity, certainty, and serenity.  

In coming months, you will be seeing some changes here as well.  The way I approach this blog, this website, and teaching "should-less" ideas, are all going through an entire revamp, and I am very excited about what is coming next.  Stay tuned! 

My psychotherapy practice focuses on solution-based approaches for expanding hope, happiness, healing, and strength.  I also help people learn effective tools for managing grief and loss, bereavement, ageism, stress, depression, social anxiety, bullying, and anger. I specialize working with individuals and/or couples coping with addiction, HIV related concerns, caretaking fatigue, spiritual/religious issues, and coming out.  I currently see clients in Manhattan on Tuesdays and Fridays at 1133 Broadway (at 26th street), and have later night appointments for those who cannot attend during the day.  

I offer lectures and workshops throughout New York that assistant participants in managing their daily lives and relationships with greater satisfaction, more enjoyment, and less suffering.  To see highlights from my "Give Up Your Shoulds Day" conference in New York City last November, please check out  If you are interested in having me as a presenter for your group or at your business, please feel free to write me at, or call me at 347-227-7707.  To read about more tools for managing life without "shoulds," please check out my blog at

I am very excited to announce that I now offer Skype Consultations for people outside of New York City.  These consultations also focus on helping people compromise and negotiate in order to increase joy, acceptance, and fun in their everyday relationships, as well as promote health and wellness in all the areas listed above.  If you are interested in taking part in a private consultation, then please contact me.    

Damon L. Jacobs is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist seeing individuals and couples in New York City. He specializes in issues related to addiction, ageism, bullying, caretaking fatigue, body image, grief and loss, gay/lesbian issues, stress management, depression, as well as couples in non-traditional arrangements. He is the author of "Absolutely Should-less: The Secret to Living the Stress-Free Life You Deserve." To have him speak with your group, schedule a counseling visit, or a Skype consultation, call 347-227-7707, or email at

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