Rational Polyamory

I am so thrilled to be a guest speaker at the monthly Open Love NYC Discussion Group this Tuesday, September 27, from 7:30-9:30.  The topic is "Rational Polyamory" and reflects my growing interest in helping people create wonderfully joyful, fulfilling, and rationally based relationships with others.

Individuals who share love and affection with more than one person are uniquely positioned to experience deeper levels of pleasure and satisfaction in all relationships. But without certain principles they may often flounder and become frustrated.  I will be offering an easy roadmap for participants to implement in order to gain more satisfaction and fulfillment in their daily interactions. Attendees will learn how to:

• Improve rational communication that promotes respect, integrity, and efficacy in interpersonal relationships with multiple partners.
• Learn the value of staying present and ways to maintain here-and-now focus.
• Explore impact of "drama" in increasing frustrations and resentments.
• Gain tools for managing and inevitable insecurities that arise in poly relationships.
• Maintain responsibility for one's own emotional wellness and state of serenity in relationships.

Tuesday, September 27 – 7:30 pm to 9:30 pm
Manhattan Theater Club
311 West 43rd Street at Eighth Avenue, 8th Floor
New York, NY 10036
Subway to Times Square or Port Authority

Admission: $10 at the door (includes membership bracelet)
$8 for Open Love NY members with 2011 member bracelet
So if you're in the New York area this Tuesday, come by and say hello to me and the good folks of Open Love NY!


Damon L. Jacobs is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist seeing individuals and couples in New York City. He specializes in issues related to addiction, ageism, bullying, caretaking fatigue, body image, grief and loss, gay/lesbian issues, stress management, depression, as well as couples in non-traditional arrangements. He is the author of "Absolutely Should-less: The Secret to Living the Stress-Free Life You Deserve." To have him speak with your group, schedule a counseling visit, or a Skype consultation, call 347-227-7707, or email at Shouldless@gmail.com
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Changes Ahead...

If there is one thing that ever stays the same it is change.  If there's a second thing that stays the same, it's the perspective that things "should" be the way they used to be.  And if there's a third thing that remains the same, it is the irritation, frustration, and hopeless that results from having "shoulds" about change.

I am especially fascinated by this subject this month, as it seems all our lives personally and globally are undergoing a metamorphosis.  From the economy to politics, to our interpersonal relationships, and even the ways we consume entertainment, there is a shift that is being sparked by rapid changes in technology, access to information, and a breaking down of old systems.  These shifts can be scary and disappointing, yet with the right tools, can be approached from a place of clarity, certainty, and serenity.  

In coming months, you will be seeing some changes here as well.  The way I approach this blog, this website, and teaching "should-less" ideas, are all going through an entire revamp, and I am very excited about what is coming next.  Stay tuned! 

My psychotherapy practice focuses on solution-based approaches for expanding hope, happiness, healing, and strength.  I also help people learn effective tools for managing grief and loss, bereavement, ageism, stress, depression, social anxiety, bullying, and anger. I specialize working with individuals and/or couples coping with addiction, HIV related concerns, caretaking fatigue, spiritual/religious issues, and coming out.  I currently see clients in Manhattan on Tuesdays and Fridays at 1133 Broadway (at 26th street), and have later night appointments for those who cannot attend during the day.  

I offer lectures and workshops throughout New York that assistant participants in managing their daily lives and relationships with greater satisfaction, more enjoyment, and less suffering.  To see highlights from my "Give Up Your Shoulds Day" conference in New York City last November, please check out  http://t.co/lwmDFhA.  If you are interested in having me as a presenter for your group or at your business, please feel free to write me at Shouldless@gmail.com, or call me at 347-227-7707.  To read about more tools for managing life without "shoulds," please check out my blog at http://shouldless.blogspot.com.

I am very excited to announce that I now offer Skype Consultations for people outside of New York City.  These consultations also focus on helping people compromise and negotiate in order to increase joy, acceptance, and fun in their everyday relationships, as well as promote health and wellness in all the areas listed above.  If you are interested in taking part in a private consultation, then please contact me.    

Damon L. Jacobs is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist seeing individuals and couples in New York City. He specializes in issues related to addiction, ageism, bullying, caretaking fatigue, body image, grief and loss, gay/lesbian issues, stress management, depression, as well as couples in non-traditional arrangements. He is the author of "Absolutely Should-less: The Secret to Living the Stress-Free Life You Deserve." To have him speak with your group, schedule a counseling visit, or a Skype consultation, call 347-227-7707, or email at Shouldless@gmail.com
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