Thursday, July 17, 2008

The Problem With Shoulds #3: Reality

The problem with Shoulds 3: Reality

"Shoulds" position your thoughts to be in direct conflict with reality. "I shouldn't be stuck in traffic right now;" "I should feel healthy today;" "You should have been home by now;" "It shouldn't have rained on the day of my party!" Notice how this feels. By telling yourself that something should be different from how it actually is, you are setting yourself up to experience stress, anger, fatigue, burnout, and hopelessness. In a nutshell: If you are determined to argue with reality, you are going to lose, and quite often feel worse about a situation than you did before.

Does this make sense in terms of situations in your own life? If so, drop me a comment below.

And hey, even if you disagree and think I should stop writing blogs about shoulds, go ahead and drop me a line as well!

1 comment:

Steve Mayfield said...

Good words, I think, to replace shoulds are:

Have you considered this...or... Have you thought of that...or...An alternative might be...

It' a good world without shoulds..

Steve Mayfield