tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644366697995907954.post6760049044314900966..comments2024-01-01T21:27:42.142-05:00Comments on <center>The Absolutely Should-less Blog</center>: Lesson #3: What Other People Think And Say About You Is None Of Your BusinessDamon L. Jacobshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02933846695513222091noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644366697995907954.post-8496551925509438512011-04-23T16:39:33.082-04:002011-04-23T16:39:33.082-04:00What a great post, Damon. I wish more people would...What a great post, Damon. I wish more people would consider what they think of themselves, rather that what other people, who really have no idea, think about you. <br /><br />When I was a little girl, I remember being horrified (still am) when I learned my mother cared more about what other people think than what I think really matters - being true to yourself. My mother was horrified (still is) that I care what -I- think and not what others think. <br />I have always wanted to be an individual, and while my mother has always wanted me to be more like everyone else, I always felt that she missed what it is like to blaze one's own trail.<br /><br />I am an internally motivated person who does not care what most of the rest of the world thinks - but then, I also have my own limit - I care far too much about the good opinion of a selected few. While I feel this is something I need to lessen, I would much rather worry about the consideration of people I care about and respect than the approval of the world at large. This also corresponds to the fact that I am, in some ways, conceited, but I also work very hard to be honest with myself when I possibly can. <br /><br />My conclusion is while I am hardly the poster child for mental health, I am an individual and one who has value. This is despite (or perhaps because) the fact that often I am outside the mainstream and misunderstood by much of my family. My saving grace is the friends I, or my better angels, choose.<br /><br />It hurts me to see people I care about lacking confidence, second-guessing themselves, and not trusting their instincts. If they looked inside to see the beautiful person who resides within, perhaps they wouldn't worry so much about people who do not love them for themselves and who only see their 'designated role' or what they can get from you. <br /><br />Please don't stop sharing your lessons and thoughts, Damon; they are much appreciated.littlegirlbluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00501362689406013204noreply@blogger.com